Father's Day 2017 - Gift Guide for Dads

2017's day for dads is just around the corner, and many of us are in gift-planning mode. I love to buy gifts, and if I could spend every dime of our money just buying stuff for people that would almost be a dream job. But for many people, buying stuff for dads is tricky. Most of the men in our lives tend to be pretty simple creatures, and an awful lot of them suffer from the "if I want it, I'll just get it myself" type of mentality. That can be...notsohelpful to those of us trying to surprise them with wonderful things they will both love and actually use. 

Here are a few suggestions for those of you on the prowl for great stuff. 

There are few things more manly than a good piece of Saddleback Leather. I wrote about them back in 2015 and not much has changed in 2 years, except now we have more favorite pieces. They sent me this Leather Pouch Wallet (ours is shown here in Tobacco) in exchange for an honest review. It is one of their newest designs and secretly I love this one over all their wallet options because The Captain likes the wallet part and let me have the pouch part. You guys. It's like a double gift in one little package - something for him AND something for you! The wallet is sufficient to keep his cards and cash (LOL - like we even carry cash) organized but not too big as to bulk up his pocket space. Dudes can be weird about that. This one is available in several colors and you can order it directly through the Saddleback site. Several of their products are even available on Amazon. 

  • Moonshine Cologne - I slid this one on and off the list a few times because I can be such a selfish monster, but this is hands down the best smelling cologne ever. It has such an earthy, manly but not musty scent and I love it because it is so different than all the other colognes out there. Matt has worn it for years, and apparently I'm now mature enough to share the scent with others. You're welcome. 
  • Kayak/gear - We live in the Birmingham, AL area which has a magnificent supply of options for fun in the great outdoors. I gave The Captain a kayak for Christmas (well, I wrapped up a Barbie kayak and then we picked it up from Dick's Sporting Goods later), and he has really enjoyed it. My best tips here are two-fold. 1) Do your research. Check out sites like this one and this one to figure out what specific type will work for your person. OR 2) Don't do your research. Just wrap up a Barbie kayak and let him get what he wants later. Either way, the dad you're buying for ends up a happy paddler. 
  • Timbuktu bags - These things are rugged yet metro. They're sleek but also have pockets aplenty. They're really cool bags/backpacks/messenger bags that are extremely well made. The Captain loves his messenger bag and backpack, and as someone who travels A LOT he knows a lot about the best/most convenient bags out there. 
  • He Reads Truth  - For those of you with dudes who are interested in Bible study and application, this site has some very modern resources...and a great sale to boot! 
  • Uncommon Goods - This website is so fun and quirky I just cannot even stop the browsing. From manly hygiene kits to the coolest cocktail set ever (and by "ever" I do mean "ever on the planet of Geekdom") to this totally random and unbelievably awesome steampunk kinetic key holder. Welcome to the World of Random! At least you know you can find something he doesn't have on this site! 

Happy shopping, amigos! Now go! Go find him something fabulous! 

The times, they are achangin'

So many things have evolved in my 15 years of being an educator in Alabama. When I started my first position in this field, which was serving as a 5th grade reading teacher, corporate email for teachers wasn't even a thing, y'all. I mean, seriously. That alone makes me feel like a fossil. 

And, of course, there is much that hasn't changed at all. In many ways teachers are still disrespected, ignored, and undermined in all the ways that matter when it comes to legislative issues that impact our profession. Our elected representatives talk about us, over us, around us, and under us, but they rarely talk to us. This is ineffective and inefficient at best when it comes to effecting real and positive change for our teachers, students, and communities. 

There was a thing that happened this weekend that gave me hope. A very diverse group of impassioned, extraordinary teachers came together to discuss issues impacting education in Alabama. We discussed everything from Alabama's College and Career Ready Standards to measures impacting teacher quality to National Board Teacher Certification. It was a robust discussion, and my only regret was that we had to cut it off after an hour. This was teachers talking shop, and it was so refreshing to hear the different viewpoints on these issues. 

What made this different from any other teacher roundtable discussion was that, for the first time to my knowledge, a prominent person pursuing an elected office asked for a seat at our table. (*See my friend Julie's blog post explaining just why it is OUR table!)

The times, they are achangin' friends, and in all the ways that will be the wind in our sails to make a tangible difference for our teachers and students in this state. 

STEM for Preschool

The merging of all my posts into one feed has uncovered some old drafts that never got published. Here's one from last year.

Kidzone Discovery School - a place that is and people who are very very dear to our family - invited me to serve as a speaker for one of their professional development days last spring. In response to the administrators' research in best practices for young children, they asked that the focus be on STEM for Preschool. STEM, as some of you may know, is the emphasis on and intersection of Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math. STEAM is the newest version of this, incorporating Art into the mix.

STEM/STEAM-focused learning activities are pretty on trend right now for K-12 education. At the onset of planning, my approach was taking something complex and simplifying it for preschool purposes and I anticipated some challenges in that area. Would I be able to find enough "lower-level" activities to pull this off?

As it turned out, STEM is so perfectly aligned to instructional strategies appropriate for preschool that there was no shortage but rather an abundance of options for this workshop. Polling together my own personal children's STEM-type tools as well as some materials provided by the preschool made for a powerful, hands-on workshop that the teachers seemed to truly enjoy.

I started off with an interactive quiz to determine that audience's level of familiarity with STEM. We had some basic understanding but for most participants, this concept was entirely new. Then I gave a quick talk on the origin of the STEM movement and how this method of instruction helps nurture curiosity, initiative, and critical thinking skills in our kids. The next chunk of time we spent rotating through stations so that everyone had an opportunity to try out (and evaluate) some activities for appropriateness in relation to their specific age groups. Each station had a challenge/task card with just enough instructions to enable self-sufficiency in exploring the activity.

1. In this challenge, teachers were given rolls of tin foil and were asked to design a boat that would float. They experimented with design of their vessels, and even took on the extra challenge of adding cargo (pennies) to see how that would alter their boat's function.


2. The next station was simply a box of Magformers. These are magnetized geometric shapes that can be clipped together to build designs from the included idea book or users can branch off and design a structure according to their own specifications.


3. The next station was creating chemical reactions with baking soda, food coloring, and vinegar. The teachers could use droppers to pull out colored vinegar and create artistic chemical reactions by adding it to the pans of baking soda. Younger kids love this activity, and as long as you prep ahead of time with disposable trays and garbage bags, clean-up can be kept to a minimum.


4. This was the most advanced STEM activity of the session. The participants were challenged to use tin foil, pins/hot glue, and streamers/ribbon to create a comet. The emphasis on this station for actual use with preschoolers would be teacher assistance and instruction on the various terminology associated with the comet models. The fun part, of course, would be getting to throw their foil comets across the room afterward.


5. The next station involved using Legos and the Lego Movie Maker app to create short, stop-action videos. I have recently been devastated to discover that Lego Movie Maker has been discontinued, but there are other stop motion video apps out there that would accomplish the same goal.


6. This station was the simplest yet it yielded the most room for creativity. The challenge was to build Elsa's castle out of sugar cubes, and everyone had such a creatively different take on the best way to assemble a sturdy castle. One of the administrators suggested that we could also use a sugar water paste (similar to gingerbread house icing) to help the "bricks" stick together.


7. This station was also pretty simple, including just pipe cleaners and beads. Using those two materials only (plus duct tape, of course), the teachers were challenged to see which team could build the tallest structure.


We rotated everyone through the stations in five-minute increments. Some challenges required more time, others less, but this gave all the teachers a broad sweeping exposure to the STEM/maker concept. A follow up interactive quiz gave good feedback on the participants' understanding of the purpose and details of our STEM activities.

Whether you're a teacher or a parent looking for Spring Break/summer fun, you are welcome to check out the links below to set up your own kiddos' STEM challenges!

Link to STEM for Preschool presentation

Link to supplemental signs for STEM activities

When your kids throw a wrench in your plans to opt out of standardized testing

As an educator, I believe there are better ways to assess student learning than the system of standardized testing we currently have in place.

As a citizen, I believe that parents have the right to determine what is best for their children – including exercising the ability to opt out of standardized tests.

As a mother, I have long believed that the combination of my views as an educator and a citizen would combine in one outcome: that I would opt my children out of any and all standardized tests that came their way. 

From Pixabay.com under CC0.

From Pixabay.com under CC0.

Only, see what had happened was…my child did not actually want to be opted out.

Huh. In the words frequently mumbled by Sweet Love when she has made yet another mess…”I didn’t see that coming.”

I’ve written about this testing thing a few times here and there:




Sassafras is now in 4th grade, which means the next few weeks will hold her second round of standardized testing. Last year, I sat her down, told her my basic thoughts about testing, and asked what she thought. Her response was that she was curious about how the testing thing worked and she really wanted to take them. Okay, fine, I said. But there was absolutely no reason to get all stressed out or anxious about it and if at any point she changed her mind, I’d take care of it.

This year, I casually made the same offer: if you want to skip the test, I’ll make it happen. Her response was: Meh, I liked taking the test because I got a good score, so I’ll just go ahead and take it this year, too.

Ummmm…okay. I suppose she’s very behavioristic that way. Taking the test, and receiving positive feedback, makes her feel good about her school experience. I have to acknowledge that while also remembering that taking the test is not at all a positive occurrence for other kids out there.

I still believe there is a better way to evaluate the work done by educators and students, and will continue advocating for improvements to the overall system as well as parents’ rights to determine what, if any, testing experience is right for their children.

8 reasons you definitely shouldn't foster

Go on any social media network and you'll find a flood of people who constantly share op-eds, Scripture, quotes, and ultrasound memes touting their pro-life status. For hordes of those same people, the vigilant activism ends there. They are loud and proud on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook, but when it comes to action, clicking the Share button is good enough for them. There really isn't much - if any - actual proof that they take action to value all life.

Some folks call that slacktivism. Slacker activism.

The term that many liberal-minded people are using to address this phenomenon is no longer pro-lifers, but pro-birthers, because their actions, concerns, and voting preferences are all wrapped up in the avoidance of abortion rather than the support of the actual child's life once he or she enters the world.

Pro-birth, not exactly pro-life.

Adoption and foster care are two authentically pro-life kinds of things, but humans are just so great at coming up with all the reasons not to dabble in that messy world. Here's looking at you, conservatives, because you are the loudest when it comes to abortion.

And it's true that foster care isn't for everyone. It's inconvenient and messy and distracting and hard, and some people struggle to make the leap to give it a try. And some folks simply aren't stable enough themselves to offer help to someone else. Drowning people will never save other drowning people. But the fact is, most people aren't drowning. Most people are somewhere in the middle class bracket and they have more to share than they want to admit. Is that you? Maybe you have been considering foster care but still on the fence. If so, here are eight ways you can know for sure that hey, foster care just really isn't for you.

1. You're much too busy to attend some weird classes designed to teach you this whole new way of parenting kids who have had a hard life. Your kids are fine, so who needs that hokey attachment voo-doo? Plus, you have more meaningful things to do with those hours...like binge another season of that show you just discovered on Netflix.

2. You believe your personal children deserve to stay in that bubble you've constructed to keep them from having to see how life works for less-stable people. Hey, man. You work way too hard to give your kids more food, clothes, and toys they could ever need or want. Keeping them comfortable is more important than anything or anyone else, and they should never have to share their nice things with some random poor kid whose parents make bad choices. Their fault, their problem...not yours.

3. You feel that your race is superior to others, and you would never permit a child of a different ethnicity to live under your roof. Allow some kids in your house to speak a language other than English? Please. 'Merica! And for some of those others, I mean, my gosh, what in THE world would you even do with their hair?!

4. You just could never get attached to a kid who might not be yours forever. That's just too hard. After all, your feelings and fears and need to avoid any emotional discomfort are vastly more important than an abuse victim's need for safety, a poor child's need to be fed, or a scared kid's need for comfort.

5. You cannot handle interruptions, and helping people is inconvenient. You can't stand having your family's afternoon walk interrupted by some desperate social worker calling to ask you to help with some kid who needs a place to stay for the week. Ugh.

6. Your life plan is far more valuable than helping children and families in crisis. I mean, you have ladders to climb. You are just too busy!

7. No one has ever done anything for you so why should you do anything for anybody else? You got where you are by working hard, and if anybody else is poor it's because of one thing: they're lazy.

8. You aren't really Pro-Life. You're just Pro-Birth. You can't stand the thought of a mother killing her unborn baby, but after that baby is born? Eh, that's her problem.

Any of this feel right to you? Are you nodding your head in agreement? Then yeah, foster care is absolutely not for you.

Let's say it doesn't feel right to you. Maybe you realize - and care - that every time you say no, every time you list a "But I/my/our...", every time you put your needs before a foster kid's, another victimized child sinks into an even darker situation.

Maybe you don't believe it's Biblical to be just a Pro-Birther. You want to be a Pro-Lifer. Was Jesus a Pro-Lifer? You bet He was. It drips from every recorded word He uttered. Go and read them and you'll see. I love Him for always siding with the person with the least amount of power in any situation.

So, what now? Will you take an action step and look for a way to serve some of the most powerless, vulnerable people in our society? You have options! You can adopt domestically or internationally. You can become a full time foster parent or you can try serving as a respite-only foster parent. You can seek to understand and advocate for legislation that supports families in crisis. You can volunteer in crisis pregnancy centers or other charities that exist to help families in poverty.

If you're in my state, one of these is the best place to start.





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